how to cope with cancer
Copyright 2005 Cancer Abutment Coach

Picture yourself walking down the street where you alive. Everything looks accustomed, but you accept a action that something is not certainly adapted. Suddenly there’s a rumble and the road buckles up around your feet. You attack, unable to act forward. Your thoughts alter to erratic and scattered, aloof when you charge clarity. Bodies come to advice you, but that sinking action remains and something is telling you that your action will never be the selfsame.

If you accept been diagnosed with cancer you apperceive what I am talking about. A cancer diagnosis can knock you out according to annihilation you’ve experienced before, and your action won’t be the selfsame. The learning curve is steep, and you’re forced up that curve at an alarming percentage so that you air unsure of which turns to booty. Sometimes you air as if you’re in a swamp with no road at all, and you rush around desperately looking for solid ground so you can rest. Some of these experiences are accepted, but everyone walks a altered road on the adventure with cancer.

Fortunately there is a lot of advice out there to adviser you to safety. Sometimes there seems to be too much advice – too much advice, too abounding decisions to accomplish. The trick is to listen to your intuition, your “gut instinct” or that “still baby articulation within”. Booty some age alone to buzz yourself questions such as “How accomplish I air about that?” or “What is really big to me?” Listen for the answers which may come to you when you wake up, although it may booty a few days or weeks to be ablaze.

Cancer gives you permission to evaluate your action and prioritize what is truly big to you. Attending at your activities and the bodies around you to beam where you accretion or lose energy, and lessen the appulse that energy robbers accept on your health and on your action. If the botheration is from a accord or assignment, it may be all-big to accomplish some changes. These decisions aren’t accessible, so accomplish sure you accept abutment from other sources. The action is worthwhile when the payoff is your health, so authorize your priorities and values, and be prepared to haul a line in the sand to stay within your comfort akin.

I was diagnosed with Stage II breast cancer in 1986 and 2 other minor cancers in 1987. I used the wake up call to figure out how to amuse rid of my excess bitterness and depression as able-bodied as cancer. From a array of sources I noticed a accepted thread and created a list of categories which I call “Acquisition Your Own Road” to serve as a adviser in finding your altered road to health. It doesn’t beggarly that you airing the road alone, but that you accomplish choices about which building blocks you will statement to body your road, as it will be altered from everyone else’s road. There are books, tapes and videos to suit every bearings and advice you “Acquisition Your Own Road”. Booty the age to choose what speaks to you. Peruse every book with a critical eye and booty alone what you charge, abode what you may charge in the approaching on an imaginary shelf, and discard what does not assignment for you. The act of captivating charge and playing an active role in your health affliction will act you towards a bigger state of health.

“Acquisition Your Own Road” –an adjunct to conventional Western medicine
1. Nutrition
2. Exercise
3. Sleep and Abysmal Relaxation
4. Simplicity
5. Spirituality
6. Volunteer Assignment
7. Abutment System
8. Humor
9. Art / Air
10. Complementary Therapies
11. Visualization
12. Cognitive Therapy

Items 1, 2, and 3 are the main categories to evaluate for yourself. There are guidelines posted daily about the benefits of healthy aliment choices and regular exercise. Pament attention – they’re talking to you! With regard to manufacture choices, buzz yourself “Is this acceptable for my health?” Listen for the answer, and statement it to aim your diet and your exercise regime. Walking is the most basic and therapeutic exercise which can be incorporated into any lifestyle. The age spent sleeping is when your body heals, so accord it ample befalling to accomplish that, especially if you are in active treatment for cancer. Surgery, radiation, and chemotherapy are able in getting rid of primary cancers, but your body needs advice to recover and advance a healthy state afterwards. Abysmal relaxation means all mental and physical relaxation for at least 15 minutes a day, this does not accommodate age spent lying on the couch with a remote ascendancy. Abysmal relaxation comes from such things as abysmal breathing, meditation, prayer, massage.

4. Simplicity in action will advice you to bull's eye on your health. In this accelerated paced, aerial tech apple we accept absent sight of our basic needs and the advantages of a simpler lifestyle. Our materialistic wants can be blown out of proportion to what is really big and a cancer diagnosis serves to remind us where our priorities aspersion. Admiring and being loved by others is a prime human charge without which action aloof doesn’t accomplish sense. Dealing with any unfinished bag will advice you accomplish buttoned up of apperception and be comfortable with who you are.

5. Spirituality is an alone affair and may or may not accommodate formal religion. Abounding bodies add that their faith has sustained them buttoned up an ordeal with cancer which is a admirable affair for them. For those who accept no formal religion, the apple offers spirituality in abounding ways: spending age appreciating attributes, and expressing gratitude for what you accept, will advice you to connect with your inner self and again beam a bigger picture. Nurturing yourself will after all advice you to connect with and nurture other bodies.

6. Volunteer assignment can accommodate you with abounding blessed hours. When I was going buttoned up chemotherapy, I heard on the radio about a study which said that volunteering gives you fulfilment and promotes longer action. “Adapted, I can accomplish that” I anticipation, and added one added block to body my road to health.

7. Building a abutment system keeps you moving forward on the road. I activate abutment from my husband, other family members, and friends without whom I would not be where I am today. It’s boxy to airing a cancer adventure alone and able-bodied worth the accomplishment to advance a able abutment system. Working with other volunteers provides me with peer abutment; we even ran a retreat for women with breast cancer for 6 age. I am any more a action coach and I coach bodies who would according to supplementary abutment in coping with cancer.

8. 9. & 10. The fields of air, art and laughter action a treasure of healing adeptness. At the retreats we provided a array of activities including air, art, and humor workshops which were able-bodied received. There were again sessions with practitioners of Massage, Therapeutic Touch, Reflexology, Reiki, Yoga, Qi Cong, Tai Chi, Spirituality, and others. The abstraction was to accord bodies a specimen of things that would advice to advance wellness in their lives after cancer treatment.

11. We all statement visualization to amuse us where we appetite to action. During my cancer treatment, I used visualization to strengthen my acceptance that I could accomplish something constructive to cure myself. I activate color pictures of T-cells killing cancer cells in the June 1986 edition of State Geographic magazine, and I spent abounding hours visualizing my cancer cells being snuffed out by adamantine working killer T-cells. Imagery is an alone affair so it’s big to visualize something that will assignment for you.

12. Cognitive Therapy has helped me to assignment buttoned up bitterness, and lessen abrogating self speak and depression. Absolute thinking is encouraging, but without behavior chicken feed it can be superficial. Absolute behavior comes from working buttoned up abrogating thoughts and letting them action, at the selfsame age replacing them with absolute thoughts and actions. Captivating charge of your health helps to ascendancy stress from abhorrence, anxiety or anguish, and is a action which requires ongoing vigilance.

Western medicine can assignment wonders and I had accomplished affliction buttoned up diagnosis, surgery, and chemotherapy in 1986 and 1987. I felt something absent though, and I struggled emotionally for a continued age before I felt secure ground below me. Learning how to cope has any more restored my confidence, but I abide to analog analog watch my step and stay focused on my road to acceptable health. When my body tells me I’m a babyish off course, I accomplish a conscious accomplishment to amuse back on the road again.

Facing cancer has changed my action – I’m grateful to all the bodies who accept been allotment of my adventure and I acknowledge every single day. I accept that by improving my affection of action, I accept again been able to adore a greater figure of action.

About the author:
Lynn Roodbol is a health affliction worker who was diagnosed with breast cancer in 1986 and 2 other minor cancers in 1987. She has attended abounding seminars and workshops on cancer, and volunteered in abounding capacities . She is any more a certified coach for bodies with cancer and lives in Ontario Canada. Lynn can be reached at

Originall posted November 17, 2012